I noticed a lump
hi caroline,
I'm a 15 year old male and i have a really embarrasing problemwhich cant be helped. Ive been seeing my girlfriend now for about 6 months, she is 16 and says she is ready to have sex with me. My problem isn't inexperience with sex, its taking my top off. When i was around the age of 11,
I noticed a lump under my left nipple. I thought nothing of it at first because it was only small. But by the time i had turned 12 i had a lump under my right nipple aswell. I ignored the problem at first because they where still only small, but during that year, they grew bigger and stuck out more. I was ashamed to take my top off now. I decided to tell my mum about my problem, and i found out that my dad also had this problem when he started puberty.
His case was really bad and he still had them when he reached 20. He was going out with my mum at the time and she told him to go to the hospital where he had the lumps surgically removed. Anyway, i was 13 when i first went to the doctors and he told me not to worry because they would go after i get my TB needle. The time came when i was to recieve my TB and they did not go. So i made another appointment with the doctor where he then got me a hospital appointment.
After a couple of months on the waiting list i went to the hospital where i feel i was fobbed off. She made another appointment for the following year, and said that if they werent gone within the next year, i should go back. That year went and still i had these lumps under my nipples. My hospital appointment came again, and she was still not very helpful at all. She told me to start working out to build up the muscle around my chest. So i got hold of some weight training equipment and started to work out, my problem is sticking at it. I dont have the will power to keep on working out everyday and i dont see why i should have to suffer.
One of the worst things about my nipples is when we go on holiday abroard. I cant take my top off all day in the boiling heat, and i cant go swimming. Its torture for me. And still to this day i have these lumps under my nipples, and with my girlfriend ready to have sex with me, i honestly dont know what to do. Please dont suggest going to the doctors or hospital again as i really dont think i could face going back.
please help
yours sincerely.........
p.s. please reply as soon as you can. thanx
Hi Matty,
Frankly I'm concerned that your GP hasn't really done any more for you, have you told him that you re feeling depressed about the whole thing, you're not eating, you’re having bad dreams, cant concentrate its taking over your life!!! (well it may get you seen to a bit quicker if you told them it was having a physcoligical effect on you!!! if you know what I mean!!!)
Tell them its affecting your life and that because you've asked for help constantly you're being denied proper health care and advice from them threaten to write to the family practitioner committee (local no for your area in the phone book) tell them your life is being affected by these lumps and you want them removed tell them every time you get an appointment something seems to go wrong and its cancelled tell them its not good enough!!! (get support from your parents too in a letter). And if that doesn't start the ball rolling......
There is something you can do if your GP/nurses at the Practice or hospital wont help!!, Ask your mum if you can save up and have it done privately there are lots of docs who would be willing to help alleviate you of your problem if you offer to pay privately. its just another option. You would have to find a private clinic probably a cosmetic surgery clinic look in the yellow pages, or ring the family practitioner committee they should have a list of such clinics. find out what's involved, how much it costs etc. and go and have a consultation with them, please take your mum along with you you have every right to have it done and if the GP wont help go private.
R
Caroline