What's wrong with me?
Hi,
I'm 14 and from Leicester. I'm pretty miserable at the moment... because I'm very unpopular at school. I have a couple of friends..but I'm always the girl with no partner for p.e and stuff. There are a group of girls being nasty to me for no reason at all. I try to ignore it, but they are telling all of my friends horrible things about me that aren't true and I'm drifting further away from my friends. I go to the girls loos for an hour some lunchtimes because I'm so lonely. I'm quite smart and I think everyone is jealous or something.. That's the only thing I can think of. I also think its because im so ugly. Im spotty with googly eyes and I look in the mirror and hate myself. I just want to cry all the time. The group of girls even have the nerve to tell of me to the teacher, saying I follow them around. If anything I do my best to ignore them. I know I'd never dream of going through with it, but I think about killing myself to make them feel guilty.
WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME?
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THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP
NATALIE
Natalie,
Please don't do anything that would make them feel like they've won!!! and harming yourself is giving them every reason to win!
You are doing the right thing in ignoring them Please go and tell a Teacher or Head Teacher at the school you MUST bring this out into the open NOW. Talking to me will help as I can tell you what you should now do.
Tell a teacher immediately tomorrow, you have the right a s a human being not to bet treated in this manner and be subjected to this silly behaviour tell them that also they make you feel so bead you feel like the things you told me, that should be enough to prove to them you're not lying ,feel courage and feel me supporting you to tell someone its a very courageous thing to do standing up to bullies BUT if you don't you'll never feel better ever!
So pluck up your courage and get someone told tell them they've lied about you following them around its them who are behaving abusively to you and it makes you feel very upset and you now have decide that you'll let everyone know what's going on!!!!!! You'll be amazed at all the other kids who have suffered like you are or have.
I would suggest that you ask permission from your Head if you can set up a lunchtime club for half an hour on Bullying support have posters made and act as a Governor and head of advice team, making lists out of anyone who has been bullied to come and tell you their problems make a list and give it to your head teacher telling the head that you intended to help others who have been through bullying too as you feel its a good story for the papers and you want to stop it happening (mentioning the papers to the teacher will make them ware that its going on and no schools want bullying to be front age on the Sun do they? Or any local news paper for that matter.
It's your turn to make a difference to theirs and by doing do you'll build up a new network of friendships around you that your all familiar with and you can all help and offer support to one another, Its sounds hard but maybe you're the one to get the issue on its way. It will make you stand out from the crowd and in a better way that you imagined Be strong and courageous you have a role to play and be a leader in a subject you know all about. Don't let these bullies win you must embarrass them.
No body's ugly and nobodies pretty either, the most loveliest looking person can be the most vicious person on the inside Natal and the ones who think they're ugly are they most gifted and better person on the inside you possess good qualities that they don't have and feel they want they are only people who want what you have and they cant get it because you have it and they don't, Pity them and be strong and guide others if you can to help them.
I'm not an Agony Aunt who hasn't experience what you have. I know you will be good at this role, remember to get permission from teachers.
Also if you take up some martial art classes at your local Leisure centre it will improve your confidence and build up a new friendship with others in the club and you will feel better about yourself and you'll be able to stand up to the bullies and know you can protect yourself too. One up on them then?
Be strong
Love
Caroline