He's ruined everything!
Dear Caroline,
Please help me. I'm a 15 year old girl and a very emotional person. I tend to not get along with girls as much as guys, infact all of my friends are guys. My one best friend, Taylor i thought i could trust as being just a friend. he knows that i don't agree with relationships at our age and that i'm a very cynical person. Out of everyone i know he knows me the best and i thought he understood me until yesterday. We were walking down the street when he told me that he liked me.
I got confused because he liked this other girl called Jenn. He said Jenn was just a cover for the way he felt for me. He said he was too scared to tell me in the past and made Jenn up. i was so angry with him that i ran off, he tried to chase me but i beat him to my friend Shaun's house. i told shaun about it and he was as shocked as me. Taylor didn't try to come into Shaun's house and i stayed there most of the evening. Everything has changed now. How will i ever look at him in the same way? He was supposed to be my neutral friend Taylor and now he's someone i don't even know.
He told me he agreed with not having relationships this young, so how could he do this? what was he expecting from me? he knows i don't like him in that way. He's ruined everything. How can he be my best friend now? he wants to be more than a friend. I'm so messed up and angry with him. I want him as a friend, the way it was, but i don't see how that can be possible now. In the backs of our minds this situation will always be. please help, i don't know what to do. He keeps calling my house and texting my phone, i can't face him yet.
Love
Magenta
Hi Magenta,
It's happened to us all, the best mate's a guy, who wakes up one morning and finds that he likes his girl best mate as a partner, he's growing up and finding himself attracted to you, you should feel quite flattered in a secret kind of way. because he's tried to hide if for so long from you and has finally plucked up the courage to tell you, that's quite a frightening thing to do at hs age.
He's picked you as his first love, ahh it is really quite sweet! although you only want him as a friend. It can't make it any easier for both of you at all. I would suggest that you text or phone him back you have to tell him and speak to him really, you're not ready for a relationship are you? and that's why you were taken aback, you inner voice has told you your running away because you're not ready. and you tell him that, your not ready for a relationship that he wants you're too young and want to be his friend can he live with that? and continue as a friend only, if he really values you as a friend he will say yes and be your friend! if not then I would cool off for a while with him and see how it goes.
Regards
Caroline