We have an excellent friendship!
Hi
Background :
I'm 22 years and upto now have not had any kind of romantic relationship, I have had girls/women who I would class as friends and there have been one or two girls I have asked out but have being turned down. I am very shy and insecure. I was bullied at college by people who were supposed to be my friends, this has left me untrusting and very cold fronted when it comes to people and feelings.
Problem :
At work I have become really close to a woman, who is 51 years old, we have an excellent friendship, such that I feel really comfortable around her and I can talk to her about anything. She has also confided in me that her current marriage is about to end. We have discussed the issue of a relationship between us on several occasions, she insists that the age gap is socially and morally unacceptable and that it wouldn't last as I would find someone else. Yet she continues to tell me that she really likes me and wishes I was older.
Several people have noticed how close we have become and made the usually comments but she keeps telling me to ignore them. I really do care about her but don't want to loose her friendship as we have been such a great help to one another. It's taken me along time find someone like this who I trust.
This is tearing me apart, what do I Do ?
Daniel
Hi Daniel,
It's nice that you've actually found someone who wants to have you around and who actually likes being with you, listening to you and well just being friendly to you. Don't make the mistake of ruining it all and possibly your job and hers maybe by having a relationship at work! Gossip spreads around quick and if it's true then it could make one of you redundant! so tread carefully.
If you can continue just being good friends and not being too hasty about any other form of relationship with her then all these gossips will stop, they are just bored with their lives and have nothing else better to do, so poo to them, Ignore them, go about your job and be pleasant to all you are in contact with. including your friend.
If you do feel eventually that feelings are getting the better of you and you want a relationship with this lady then I would suggest you look for another job away from prying eyes etc.... and get on with it and if your both happy, then the very best of luck age doesn't really matter when your in love......
As for a bit of advice on bullying, always give what you get your in charge of yourself and none has the right to intimidate you! and remember your bests friends your underwear that you carry with you each day!!! always there and never lets you down. What you do is your business at the end of the day your an adult, so let them talk you just enjoy that your so worth talking about if that's what they want to talk about!!!! they need to get a life!!!! and stop being so jealous.
All the best
Regards
Caroline