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I wanna hold your hand!

Caroline,

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and when we began dating he didn't masturbate at all, and only began to do it because he thought it would help him feel more comfortable with me. Last night we were watching a movie and he started to masturbate, and tried to hide it from me. He then excused himself after the movie was over to finish the job. He came back and admitted this to me, and wanted to know how i felt if he did this while i was around.

To be honest, i was a little upset, it might have been because i was sitting around just waiting for him to come back, or because if that was so important to him, i would rather he go home, instead of trying to spend time with me, so preoccupied with it, i am not sure though. I don't know how to tell him that it upsets me, and i was wondering if this is something that i should be upset about, or is it irrational of me?

thanks,

eb

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Hi Eb,

Hmmm! He likes masturbating by himself rather than let you do it together? or just for him?

Yes, tell him you find it a bit insulting you are his lover not his hand!!! tell him you'll do it to him if hell let you! tell him you feel left out when he self orgasms!!! it's you that should be giving him that helping hand, If it bothers you say so.

It's really more fun if you do it for him and he should actually enjoy it better, if however it gets no reaction or change then I'd let him continue having a love affair with his hand!!! If it's himself he really likes and loves and not you. Move on and give your techniques to someone who wants it from you.

Caroline