How to win!
Hi Caroline
My Boyfriend has recently finished with me because he says we row too much. I know that we do row but I was under the impression we were going through a rough patch. We both have children from previous relationships & I'm also finding it very hard to explain to my child why he can't see my Ex or his child. We were together for 10 months & I know that he loves me as he has been getting quite upset recently because he is doing what he said he feels he has to do, not what he wants to do.
The rows were all very simple ones over nothing important & I know that given time we would get past that stage. We both tried very hard over new year not to row & things were great, however, my Ex thinks you shouldn't have to try. What should I do? I'm miserable without him I just have no idea how to win him back?
Thanx
Hi,
Ok do you love him? I mean really love him? you and only your true inner feelings can really answer that one!
If your answer is YES! then let it be known that all relationships that work have to be worked at and maintained, sorry to say that but its a true fact and reality!!! if you want to be together and row now and again over little things, it could be a matter of little things that happen at work, or socially that trigger your rows your not to blame its a natural reaction to pressure or stress!!! So its worth saving and working at!!! Nothing comes easy!!!!! I really wish it did.
Love is the flame that keeps it alive the rest comes down to hard work! and maintenance, just like your washer or heating appliances if they break down you fix them and maintain them don't you? Or alternatively if they cant be fixed if you've tried you get a new one! The input is down to you and your partner at the end of the day.
I think you know what to do now don't you?
Best of luck
Regards
Caroline