I'm really frustrated!
dear caroline,
I have known this girl for ten years and i really fancy her now.i found out she was goin out with some guy and i got really disappointed. i think she is the most beautiful thing ever created. i really want to go out with her but i cant. i have told her i fancy her and i asked her out but she said "not a yes and not a no." i haven't clue wot to do and i'm really frustrated. i rally want to go out wit her but im stuck. wot should i do?
from, limp bizkit fan
ps: i would really appreciate it if u emailed me here cos i have a crap memory and i probably would
forget the name of ur site. thanx!!Hi Limp! (bizkit fan!)
Don't get too frustrated, Ok you fancy her? she didn't say yes and didn't say no!!
You have to remember that she's already with someone, if she really liked you and fancied you then she would find a way to break up with the other guy and become free enough to be asked out by you. The decision lies with her at the moment, she's not free, so unless she makes it obvious that she's unattached then I would try to get on with your life by taking up a hobby to get her out of your mind (easier said than done I hear you say!) Yep, well that's the way it is the balls in her court Im afraid you cant make someone go out with you, they have to do it on their own free will.
Don't pester her at all, but just smile and say hello, pass the time of day and stay cool! (if you know what I mean?) if she wants to go out with you its her move next. wait and see what happens, if its meant to be then it will be if not then Im quite sure there's a lot of other beautiful girls out there. ( I know you really like her and are frustrated but really its her call because of her relationship at the moment,) you must ride it through and what will be will be.
So don't worry, be confident and gorgeous and just wait, soon enough shell come to find you if she really wants to be with you.
Rock,
Regards
Caroline
hey
i'm sorry to be ritin 2 u again but this girl i was talkin bout in my last msg, i c her evry day at skool, my mom and dad r really good friends with her parents and i stayed over nite at her house one nite and slept in her room. she was alrite bout all of this. i was really frustrated, as u said. we do evry thing together and shes with me more than her bfriend. i just wanted to know if this makes n e difference?
from,
limp bizkit fan
ps:could u email me back here again and im 13 just incase u wanted to know
Hi Limp bizket again,
I would take the bull by the horns and just ask her out otherwise you'll always be wondering wont you? just do what you think and ask her if she would ever consider you being her boyfriend at all? and if so you'd like to go out on a proper date just the two of you doing something like watch a movie etc. and nothing too heavy at your age your only 13 so take it as friends to start with and play it by ear. You've got your whole lives ahead of you both and rushing into relationships at your age is really not the right thing to do, so just be good friends and who knows when you're both older and old enough to have a proper boy/girlfriend relationship them you'll be glad you waited.
regards
Caroline