This is NOT a crush!
Dear Caroline,
I am a 16 year old girl and i really need your help because i have no-one left to turn to. In August i got involved with someone who is 22 years old who travelled with a fair. He had been my childhood crush since i was age 10 and this year he just seemed to notice me. I was so amazed that he finally noticed me, as i had been going to the fair for 6 years and he just saw me as a little child. We began to go out for drinks together and soon we developed a fantastic relationship.I became so wrapped up in him and he promised to give me the world. But the time soon came for the fair to move on and he left me, and it was absolutely heartbreaking.
He promised that we'd be together the next year and i believed him. It was amazing this summer when i fell for him and even though he was 22 he respected me and never once forced me to do anything i didn't want to do, he treated me like an angel, and was so amazing. The end of this relationship was the absolute downfall of me and no matter how many text messages i sent or phone calls i made, he just would not answer. I know what everybodies pre-conceptions of travellers are but i believe that this one is different. I can't help thinking about him all the time, he made such an effort and on numerous occasions he told me that we would be together.
I am getting obsessed, i keep returning to all the places where we shared our most intimate moments and my whole life is revolving around the 20 happiest days of my life. I haven't told any of my family because i know what they think of travellers, they will just tell me to stop being so stupid. This is NOT a crush because it was real, it stopped being a dream and i f! ell for him so quickly. I often think of running away to try and find him. I know we should be together but all my friends think i am stupid. Please help me Caroline, I just don't know what to do anymore.
Yours Hopefully
Abi
xxx
Hi Abi,
You have very strong feelings for this chap and he's gone nowhere to be seen, no contact made to you and no forwarding address either, You must know that travelling circus, fairground people tend to take things while they are there and they cannot be traced again and leave breaking lots of little hearts along the way.
I really think you've got to wake up to know that's what he was, he went there to do a job, you spent time together and it passed he was passing time he treated you so well that you have become obsessed by him, you will get over it tin time, take up a hobby and get a life outside your fantasizing its going to make you ill. `he was only a passing love something that gave you insight to what you wanted and now its gone, face up to it please or you could waste your time thinking about what had happened and miss out on going out with mates having a laugh and all that, you're much too young to get serious and anyway what kind of life would you have with a traveller?
Please be realistic and get a grip on your situation, it's been, it's passed and you've had an experience you can look back on with wisdom. It's certainly a great story to tell your grandchildren and yes maybe a good story for writing a book!! why not you may earn yourself a bit of cash too. And remember If he doesn't reply, it's because he doesn't want to and he's realized he led you on and decided to call it a day.
Sorry to be blunt but you have to realize the truth.
All the best
Caroline