Behind my best mates back!

Hi

I relly like my best mates boyf and some people say he likes me too I really don't want to hurt my best mate coz we've known each other for to long but I can't help the way I feel. I have been told by my other best mate that I should not tell my best mate coz I know it will kill her.She was crying down the phone to me saying that she knows that he likes me and she thinks I like him to.

I want to tell him so badly that I like him coz I've known him for about 5 yrs and I think he's funny smart and really kind and I can talk to him about anything but to top it all off he's gorgeous. I wish that I could tell my friend but this isn't the first time one of her boyfs has asked me out and ditched her but I've always said no coz our friendship is more important than them but this time it's different.

Today when we went shopping we met up with them (me and my best mate and him and his gang) and the whole time he wouldn't stop lookin and talkin to me it made me feel really uneasy especialy coz my best mate was standing next to me.If it came down to him asking me out and if my best mate wasn't going out with him I'd almost deffinately say yes but is that alright or is that going behind my best mates back?

Thanks

Hi there Lorraine,

Its not your fault that he likes you and you like him, you cant just turn off emotions and strong feelings can you?

I would have a talk with him on the quiet and explain that maybe you think you and he have feelings for each other, tell him that you care about how it will affect your best mate though, you can't lie any more and see what he says, he may just say he likes you and doesn't want to go out with you or maybe it's that he does want to go out with you.

If the feelings are there and its too strong to not do anything about then your friend shouldn't be told lies, let him break it off with her and then give it a break of a few weeks shell get over it! then you can decide whether or not to take up your feelings and start a relationship with him yourself, all's fair in love and war! you really do have to think about yourself sometimes. It's up to you!

Regards,

Caroline