Totally unique
Dear Caroline,
Last year, my boyfriend and I broke up because we'd both cheated on eachother. It was never a serious realtionship and only lasted for a few months. It was only a few weeks after this that I began to realise that he meant more to me than I thought. He was my best friend, as well as exciting lover - and totally unique. I heard news that he had found a new girlfriend and was totally besotted with her, so I went out with loads of men to try and prove I was over him.
Instead of feeling better, I felt worse and worse. I actually developed an eating disorder, which I feel the loss was partly to blame for. I lost all self-esteem when i found out how muh he loved his new girlfriend. Anyway, he broke up with her last year. I admitted to him how much I loved him and he told me how flattered he was. We have had many little flings after that, and I've heard he really likes me.
He was at our school dance and we had a kiss, but he later told me there was: " no empathy." (quote). I was gutted, as expected, but I saw it as a goodbye and tried to get on with things. Thing is, I've had a few parties since then and he has gone out of his way to be there and we always end up in deep conversation or cuddling. I know I shouldn't put up with it, but I truley love him so much, I just can't help it.
Please, Caroline- I'm in agony! Please give me some advice!
Thankyou and all the best,
Molko's girl
Hi Molkos Girl!
All I can say is Love hurts,and hurts and hurts.........
It does sound like you are in love with him, and he sounds fond of you too, but yes another but! He's playing with your heart strings here and you are well, playing with
his too.Make up your mind's who, and what you both want from life and this arrangement you both seem to have fallen into!
You need to know 1, How does he really feel about you, or his other girlfriend!
2. How do you really feel about him
3. If you look up the meaning of empathy
well its not something you're going to like!He said what he said and that means he doesn't really see you two both together, however if you're around at a party and his girlfriends not there, then you will be comfortable for him to cuddle, and in a sense, use, whilst you're both there at the same time same place, waste not want not! is probably what he's thinking!
If I were you, Id cool off for a while and if he really likes you hell come to find you (that's the best test) and well, if he doesn't then he cannot feel what you feel about him at this present time, so cool off, keep away and watch what happens now. Either way you'll understand because you have to come to terms with whatever the ending is, and remember!!! Plenty more fish in the sea! Go and catch a fresh one! the one you deserve.
Good Luck
R
Caroline