I jokingly told her
Dear Caroline
I have recently finished with my girlfriend. We had been going out with each other for 14 months when we had a huge argument on the night that she was celebrating the end of here exams. It's been nearly four weeks now, and she has told me that we will not be getting back together, but recently she has been doing strange things.
The other night I recieved a phone call at midnight, from my ex, she phoned me claiming that she had been left in a pub on her own by our friends. so, I went to pick her up. When I got there she told me that she was just going to tell our friends that she was leaving.
Then she told me that she "didn't know" where she was, when I jokingly told her our location in the car, she told me that she didn't know where she was in her 'head'. When we finally arrived at her house she turned towards me and went to kiss me, only to stop herself. I went back to a friends house where there was a party and noticed that my ex-girlfriends best friend was on the phone to her, and obviously aggitated by something my ex had said to her (her best friend played a part in our break-up), and she then proceeded to ignore me for the whole night.
I was supposed to see my ex a couple of days later as she was meeting up with an old friend frok school, but she never turned up, which only happens when she has fallen out with her friends.
Please give me some advice as I feel that my ex-girlfriend is having some doubts about splitting up with me, and it's the only way that I can explain her friends behaviour. It's confusing me to the point of depression as I don't know what to do.
Please help me,
Mike
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Hi Mike,
Well, us women have some pretty strange ways about us!!!
All I can think of is really search yourself and ask these questions to yourself, have you given her a reason not to like you anymore, i.e. have you had a fling with someone and she's found out? Have you not gone somewhere with her when she asked you, have you divulged something to your friends about her/your relationship with her i.e. sexwise?can you honestly think of anything you've done to make her reject you and your attention. If you can then your answer is apologize to her and never go there again!!!(dont repeat the problem).
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If you cant think of a reason then You'll have to just talk to her, That good old fashioned way of sorting out problems, talking!!! Ask her what is wrong and what does she want from your relationship together, do you love her? then tell her, ask her if she feels the same way about you. Tell her you're concerned about what she is saying to you and her actions are causing you to worry about her. If you can do that she will feel you're supporting her emotionally (alot of men don't even think about it) But it can make a huge difference to her and you.
What is her friend up to? you’re in a one to one relationship with her friend, probably intimate? what's her nose doing around your relationship anyway, good friends are happy for their friends, they stay away and DON'T cause trouble, unless they are envious of others having a great time together!!!!
Have a word with her friend and explain your feelings for your girlfriend, tell her its a one to one relationship and you will not allow her to be manipulated and told lies to. Say you will protect her from that(your girlfriend I mean) and that if anyone even starts to cause trouble then they should think twice!
Go and get your girl, talk to her and try to let her know how you feel by her strange actions. tell her that you don't like the friend meddling and if she's spreading rumours squash them now. But if you have done something then you must take what's coming , what goes around, comes around.
Be brave, and stand up for your happiness with this girlfriend, if you feel she's worth it, life's never easy for anyone but if you handle it and deal with what arises you can turn it around.
Good Luck,
Please let me know how you get on,
R
Caroline